Three Ways to Recover from Not Feeling Good Enough
Not feeling good enough to apply for that job, or ask for that promotion?
Do you compare yourself to others and find yourself less than them?
This small phrase may seem trivial but when it becomes a persistent, core belief in your mind, it can impact your entire life.
For example, you may not make the money you need or attract the relationships you deserve.
So where does this belief come from?
It may have come from messages you received as a child. Maybe you were bullied in school. Or had a critical parent.
Whatever the case, you don't have to let it define you anymore.
You can choose to think differently.
Habitual, negative beliefs are like a skill you have learned.
You practice saying them over an over in your head until they seem true. You may not notice it. Mostly it is your unconscious mind that is repeating the thought.
But with conscious effort, you can turn this around.
Here are 3 ways to change this.
First, become aware and mindful of your thoughts and feelings. Notice them as if you were observing yourself. For example, "I notice that I am thinking that I am unimportant." In this way, you start to distance yourself from the belief.
Second, accept the thoughts and release any blame or judgment towards how they came about. Try to forgive anyone who may have played a part in making you feel that way.
Third, think of alternative thoughts to replace these. Ones that you can really believe. For example, you may think, there is no evidence to support that I am not good enough to (fill in the blank). You will know if the new thought is working when you notice that you feel a little lighter about the subject.
If you seek out psychotherapy, the therapist can help you explore these feelings and thoughts. Therapy can be the most effective way to sort through all the thoughts and feelings so you can start to feel better, faster.
"The wound is the place where the Light enters you"...Rumi